Thursday, May 19, 2005

Outbreak of Love



My mom and dad flew back from Florida yesterday and my father will be on a 7pm flight to India tonight and will stay through June. Dad will be missing my cousin's wedding in New York at the end of the month. My cousin, who is extremely close to my parents, is upset but trying to keep a brave face. I mentally go through all the events that will need to be rescheduled. The baby's 1st birthday party, the boy's 5th birthday party, J's engagement/graduation party. No big deal, I remind myself. I feel for my aunt back home who is confused. Her mind and body won't cooperate with each other post stroke. My cousin J is hysterical. She has a strained relationship with her sisters. Her husband won't be able to come back from South America in time for the funeral. Her son, a merchant marine, is somewhere in the Atlantic Ocean, blissfully unaware of the chaos back home. Hopefully this will bring the 3 sister's closer together.

We had a little prayer service at my parent's house last night. My aunts, uncles, cousins and a few neighbors from the Little Kerala section of the cul-de-sac. By the time my parent's flight landed, my sisters and I had ordered the food, cleaned the house, picked up my dad's tickets, and enlarged an old picture of my uncle to be placed in the make-shift shrine. My dad thanks us and says he's lucky to have such wonderful children. Wow. I take note of the day and time and mentally file that memory away to be replayed on a future day when my dad is less touchy-feely. One of the neighbor Ammachis shows up and I speak to her in my remedial Malayalam. "Aren't you the one with the white husband?" she asks. "Yes Ammachi, he took the baby home to sleep". "Does he understand Malayalam? "No" I respond thinking she's going to chastise me. "Good. A husband doesn't need to know everything a wife says."

I had to go into the city today and took a few pictures while driving. The sky had a strange swirly cloud pattern which I couldn't stop looking at. It's strange how you notice the details of your surroundings when you're going through life altering events like death or a break-up.

To skyline

Away skyline

Ominous

8 Comments:

Blogger Grafxgurl says...

sigh that just brought back memories...people always had a problem with whom i was seen with tho...

sigh...

Thu May 19, 10:29:00 AM CDT  
Blogger eM says...

Sorry about your uncle, I hope everything's holding up okay. :)

Thu May 19, 11:58:00 AM CDT  
Blogger Gamesmaster G9 says...

Terrible day yesterday. Started off with the promise of sunshine, but the torrential rain put paid to that. Quite depressing.

Thu May 19, 02:48:00 PM CDT  
Blogger Jay says...

Beautifully observed post, Minty - very touching. My condolences.

Thu May 19, 09:18:00 PM CDT  
Blogger Jay says...

Uh, my condolences were for the death in your family. Not because you wrote a touching post.

Just thought I'd clarify. OK, I'll go now.

Thu May 19, 09:21:00 PM CDT  
Blogger Vignesh says...

Hope the family is doing alright... Take care Minty !! *hugs*

And I think I have a picture of the Chicago skyline, from the exact same spot... thought I have no idea where that is...

Fri May 20, 02:43:00 AM CDT  
Blogger The Box says...

This was really good. Everything else, the rest have said, and I second.

Fri May 20, 11:47:00 AM CDT  
Blogger anumita says...

Somehow am going through it all with you...
take care...

Mon May 23, 03:25:00 AM CDT  

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